Are you in a relationship rut, having the same fight with your partner over and over again? Or playing the same role—nag, enabler—day in and day out? By contemplating the yamas and niyamas, guidelines for living consciously, you can break free from unhealthy patterns and move toward a more joyful future.
The problems may seem to be all about your partner, but if you practice svadhyaya (self-study), you may learn something valuable that can shift the dynamic. For example, do you set your partner up for failure by asking him to do things you know he won't do—and then play the martyr? If you observe your thoughts and motives, you can make your contribution toward healthy change.
-YJ
That is a great questions to ask yourself in general. Do I set other people up for success? In this world we have learned a selfish habit of looking out for only ourselves. If you look at the questions in reverse, do others set me up for success? I bet more often than not the answer is no. So I know next time a quarrel arises I will be looking into myself first to find if I was a hindrance to success.
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Relationship Rescue
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Excellent point.
It's so hard to shift our focus from our own feelings and self-interest, and to try to be open to what others are experiencing. I don't think we're naturally wired that way; it takes patience and effort. But in the long run, it makes for much better relationships!
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